How I Learned to be More Confident
OKAY: a term for mediocre, not too strong, not too light. Just there.
My parents have always been my strongest supporters and instilled in me strength and passion from an early age. Despite their love and support, I always felt like I wasn’t enough. Growing up, I was always told “You’re pretty” which to me translated to “You’re okay.”
It seems we live a world where beauty is seen in the eyes of those who can easily do or be seen it in. I was the girl in high school who struggled with weight, rocked a TWA, but still did her best to be involved and make friends. My nickname in drama class was “Charlie Brown” because of my monotone voice and quiet demeanor. While my feelings weren't hurt this really put things in perspective for me.
As with any girl trying to make her way, I reinvented myself. I was excited about social media in hopes of achieving some sense of approval from the internet. Then DELETED it all. It dawned on me, why do I care? One day I want to build a brand and create a platform other girls could be inspired. All while taking ownership in the fact that I’m a real, everyday woman.
And that's exactly what I did. I created (and am still building) a brand on the premise of confidence and self acceptance. I began to project what I wanted out of life into passion projects, speaking life into myself and living by positive affirmations. Between the media spewing stories of what’s deemed as worthy, our own communities being divided between complexion and status, the world needs to see more everyday women and girls to relate too.
So the next time you're looking for confidence just be you.
How do you define confidence?